What makes people happy? What is the difference between happy and miserable people?
Although it may seem like a hard question to answer, in reality it is simple: It’s their behavior.
It doesn’t matter if you are wealthy or poor, if you are attractive or ugly, or if your success or failures, what makes a person happy or unhappy is their habits.
That’s wonderful news! It means we can have happiness.
These 10 happy habits can help you be happier.
1.Authentically happy: aren’t able to fake happiness
Happy people don’t fake happiness. They are comfortable with their own selves and accept the world as it is.
Tasha Eurich, psychologist, stated that deluding yourself by avoiding reality is one of the leading causes of unhappiness.
She explains that embracing the positive side of life can lead to a loss of self-awareness. This is what causes unhappiness.
“When we try to delude ourselves into seeing the truth, we are less happy, less successful, and, equally important, their friends tend to see them negatively.”
What is the problem?
Eurich believes that deluding oneself can have repercussions later on. Eurich uses the example of someone who believes they are singing well.
They are a premed student who is going to quit their program to audition for The Voice. But they don’t make the second round. They feel terrible. They feel terrible. Although it’s absurd, when we don’t understand who we are, we make decisions that are not in our best interests.
Eurich believes that self-awareness is the key to happiness and fulfillment.
People who are clear about themselves are more compassionate and forgiving. Self-aware people are more compassionate and open to new perspectives. This makes sense, because understanding how you are perceived by others and their impact on you is part of being self-aware. To do that, you have to imagine yourself in their shoes.
2. Authentically happy : are very grateful
People who are happy don’t worry about what they don’t have don’t get frustrated. They are grateful for what they have.
Although it may not seem important, gratitude is associated with positive emotions.
When times are difficult, practicing gratitude can help you. You will not give up when you face hardship or spiral into disorder.
Scientifically, gratitude is a good thing for you. There are many positive effects, both mental as well as physical.
Being grateful will encourage you to take positive steps and be proactive, not reactive, in your quest for happiness.
Alex Korb, neuroscientist and author of The Upward Spiral Workbook says that gratitude can have many other benefits.
“Gratitude can reduce depression symptoms and stress, as well as general stress. It also increases the perception of support from others. It can improve self-esteem and psychological well being. You can also improve your sleep quality and physical health. Gratitude can have many benefits, as it has a wide range of brain regions and chemicals. Gratitude has the ability to activate the dopamine systems, particularly the brain stem region that produces dopamine.
3. Authentically happy : define happiness for themselves
Every person is different, and happiness looks different for each individual. Happier people define happiness for themselves.
Rubin Khoddam PhD states that no matter where you are in the happiness spectrum, everyone has their own definition of happiness.
Many of us chase other people’s definitions and definitions of happiness. You must define what happiness looks like for yourself before you can find it.
The problem is that we often try to live up to the ideals of our society or parents, but it can be difficult.
This can cause a lot of unhappy as we realize that not everything is what we want.
Then, we must be courageous as we take control of our lives and decide to make things happen for ourselves.
How do you envision your life? This is what you need to know.
4. Authentically happy : will accept the hard things in your life
Happy people remember that there are other things in life than rainbows and butterflies. Rainbows only come after it rains. Caterpillars undergo a dramatic transformation to become butterflies.
To find the sun, one must struggle.
It’s not enough to wake up and be happy. We have to put in the work and strive for it.
If you are open to the possibility of suffering in your life, and not try to dramatize it, you can make the best of every situation and grow from them.
Kathleen Dahlen, a San Francisco psychotherapist, said that there’s no need to feel bad about feeling bad.
She believes that accepting negative emotions is an important habit, called “emotional fluency.” This means feeling your emotions without attachment or judgment.
This will allow you to learn from difficult situations or emotions and use them or move forward from them.
We often forget how terrible the rain was once we see the rainbow, or the result our struggles.
People looking for happiness are eager to find it faster. However, they don’t want to be uncomfortable and learn about themselves.
People who have lived through the fire are happy.
We can’t live happy lives in bubbles, insulated from the pain and hurt of being human.
To be happy, we must feel everything as human beings.
Besides, you can’t know when you are happy if you don’t feel sad.
5. Authentically happy : don’t rush to get through life
Happier people understand that beauty is within the eyes of the beholder. But, rushing through your life can make it difficult to see the beauty.
Research shows that “rushing” can lead to depression.
However, studies show that having nothing to do can also cause you to feel depressed.
The balance is achieved when you live a productive and comfortable life.
It’s essential to set goals but not be too hurried to achieve them. This causes us to waste so much time and prevents us from enjoying the journey.
Happy people are able to feel their way through life, and allow the bad and the good to seep into them. This allows them to experience the full human experience.
It’s not just old-time advice that makes you happy, but real-life advice that can make you happier.
6. Authentically happy : know how to play
People who are happy allow themselves to be silly. Adults lose the ability to have fun and limit their participation in it.
Stuart Brown, MD, psychiatrist, compares play and oxygen in his book Play. It’s everywhere we look, but it goes almost unnoticed and unappreciated until its absence is apparent.
He argues that play is crucial to social skills, intelligence, creativity and problem solving.
Dr. Brown explains that play is how you prepare for the unexpected, find solutions, and maintain your optimism.
Playing and having fun brings joy, and can help improve our relationships.
Get your feet wet and take off your shoes. Get dirty. Ice cream is a great treat. It doesn’t matter how many calories it has.
7. Authentically happy : are open to new ideas
You have the right to explore the world around and give yourself permission. It’s huge!
You can do things right in your backyard that you’ve never done before. You will be happier if you try something new.
Rich Walker, a psychologist at Winston-Salem State University, examined over 500 diaries and 30,000 events memories. He concluded that people who have a wide range of experiences are more likely than those who only focus on positive emotions.
Alex Lickerman, M.D. Psychology Today:
It is often possible to make positive changes by putting yourself in new situations and letting yourself go. You can be humble and open to new ideas, even if they are not better than your current ones. This is what I do all the time.
8. Authentically happy : share a few close relationships
While you don’t necessarily need to have a lot of close friends, you do need at least a few people who care and can help you get up when you fall.
It could be your spouse, your parents, or a neighbor.
A few close friends can make you happier, improve your quality of life, and help you live longer.
How many friends are there?
According to Finding Flow, there are approximately five close relationships.
National surveys show that people who claim to have at least 5 friends with whom they can talk about important issues are 60% more likely to report being’very happy.’
But maybe the number doesn’t matter as much as how hard you work to build your relationships.
Everyone needs someone to remind them that they are not alone and to make them smile when things go wrong.
People who are happy have someone to count on. They feel secure and safe knowing they can rely on their loved ones in times of need and celebrate their successes when they occur.
Connection makes for a happier life. Don’t go on your own journey to happiness if you want to find it.
Although we can travel the world by ourselves, it is much more enjoyable to share our precious time with others, doing things that bring us joy.
We feel secure when we surround ourselves with people we love and are loved by.
Feeling safe makes it easier to let go of problems, is less likely to allow drama to take over and more inclined to see the positive in others.
We feel secure and protected by a trusted circle.
9. They purchase experiences and not stuff.
People who are happy don’t place too much emphasis on material possessions, but rather understand the value and importance of life experiences.
It is possible to feel compelled to visit your local mall when things are getting tough.
Is it truly a way to make people happy?
You might be able to get a quick fix of pleasure but the joy that comes from purchasing things won’t last.
Thomas Gilovich is a Cornell University psychology professor who has been studying the effects of money on happiness since 1992. Gilovich states that adaptation is one of the greatest enemies to happiness. We purchase things to make ourselves happy. However, this is only temporary. We are initially excited by new things, but we then adapt to them.”
Spend money on experiences if you have the desire to spend money. See the world. You can live your life on trains, planes, and the car that takes you to nowhere.
Gilovich says that our experiences are more important than our material goods. It is possible to really love your material possessions. Even though you may think they are a part of your identity, they still remain apart from you. Your experiences are, however, part of you. Our experiences make up our whole.
Explore other parts of the world and discover what it is like to live there. Spend as much time as you can in parks and on challenging walks, as well as by the sea.
These are the places where you will find happiness. Not the mall.
10. They are aware of who they are
Happiness is not something that you just see, it’s something you create. It is possible to be happier.
It can be hard work. You may not always find the things you love about yourself through the work you do.
Niia Nikolova is a Postdoctoral researcher in Psychology. She believes that knowing yourself is the first step to breaking bad thought patterns.