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These are 12 signs of an overbearing personality

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They will give advice, even if nobody asks

Overbearing people can lead to a lot more problems in your life.

They don’t often value others the same way as they value themselves. Their actions may reflect this.

While it is not that someone who is overbearing wants to hurt others, they do have a false sense that they are superior and feel that their way will always be the best.

We’ll be discussing 12 characteristics of an overbearing personality in this article. Then we’ll talk about how to deal with them.

They will give advice, even if nobody asks1. They will give advice, even if nobody asks

Overbearing people want to offer their advice whenever they can.

They may have positive intentions but misunderstand social cues when someone isn’t asking for advice.

Overbearing people know their stuff and are not afraid to ask questions.

Some people are easily annoyed or intimidated when someone offers unwelcome advice.

While it is helpful to give advice when asked, unsolicited advice can be very beneficial.

It is disrespectful and presumptive for people to voice opinions or ideas they don’t want.

It conveys a sense of superiority, and assumes they are the best people.

According to a study, it might actually be beneficial to give advice to others, but it can make them see themselves as less than you.

Nobody likes feeling less than or incompetent.

2. They encourage people to make commitments

Overbearing people are difficult people. They can be very pushy in getting people to support their cause.

They believe their way is the best, and they want to help others achieve glory.

They can be overconfident and have a tendency not to respect others’ boundaries.

It doesn’t mean it is impossible to work. People can be inspired by overbearing personalities with exuberance and confidence.

People want leaders to lead them and show them the way.

However, some people do not want to be pushed.

People don’t like being told what they should do.

While it’s true that some people don’t like being overbearing, there are times when you may need to be a leader.

Leaders who are too controlling tend to be in the “Directive” leadership category.

They are able to clearly define performance goals and clarify people’s roles.

It can also lead to them being pushy and tending to micro-manage. This is not a good thing for employees.

3. They don’t listen well

People who are too assertive are not good listeners.

They are, as we have already mentioned, very confident in their abilities and their knowledge.

They believe there isn’t much they can learn from others.

People who are overbearing tend to feel superior.

They view most of their relationships as “vertical” relationships, where they are at the top and others at the bottom.

They are eager to teach but don’t have to learn.

They struggle to listen and think of what they want to say, even though another person is speaking.

This can cause problems in work environments where employees don’t feel heard and misunderstands are more common.

4. They are control freaks.

Although “Control freak” can be a bad word, overbearing people love to be under control.

They are happy to make decisions for the entire group.

They are confident in their own thinking and assume they are making the best decisions possible for everyone.

They forget that opinions can also be shared by others.

Parents with domineering personalities are particularly vulnerable to this problem. They attempt to control their children’s thoughts and behavior.

However, it is possible for a parent to be too strict with their child’s development.

A University of Virginia study found that teens who were raised by psychologically controlling parents have trouble with their relationships and education as adults.

Emily Loeb, a postdoctoral researcher and the study’s lead author, stated that children who had parents with more controlling behavior were more likely to have difficulty completing tasks that required assertiveness, independence and autonomy. The study found that the children were more likely to be in relationships with their parents than those who received less support. They had less education than those with less psychological control by the age of 32. Also, they were less likely not to be in a romantic relationship by 32.

5. They don’t know when they are going too far.

People who are too assertive aren’t self-reflective.

They may not be aware that they are stepping on the toes of someone else.

They are focused on their own needs and the advice they give, so they don’t realize when someone is uncomfortable or distances themselves.

People who are overbearing can be very confident in what they perceive of reality. It is difficult to tell them the truth.

Even if they tell you they are rude, they will generally ignore it and assume you are just too sensitive.

6. They direct conversations back to them

Overbearing people are more comfortable steering conversations back to them. Because of their strong personalities, they tend to dominate everyone’s attention.

They are so used to being in the spotlight, they cut off others as they speak.

We’ve seen them ignore others, as we’ve mentioned a few times in this article.

They believe they are the center and the only way to get what they want. They will plot any way they can to achieve what they want.

They may also be unthoughtful or inconsiderate as they don’t care how their words will impact others.

They occupy all space believing they are the only ones with something to offer. They can be quite a handful.

7. They are unable to accept “no” as an answer.

Overbearing people can be pushy and direct. They are used to getting what they want.

They are unlikely to listen to someone who tells them that they cannot do something. They will keep pushing back and pestering.

They are focused on their goals and do not consider the opinions of others. They will negotiate, change minds and be pushy.

If you refuse to accept “no”, you are also violating other people’s boundaries, which can prove very distressing for many people.

8. They plan everything right down to the minute

People who are too controlling may be too rigid when it comes time to make plans.

They want to be in control and expect everyone to follow their plans.

If someone is visiting town, for example, an overbearing person will often have already planned the route of where and what to do.

This may be a good thing for passive people, but it can cause problems for most people.

Overbearing people are not likely to compromise with others. They find it difficult to resist the temptation to be in control.

9. They keep score

As in a soccer match, overbearing people will note every positive thing that they do for you.

They will manipulate you to make it even.

Because they feel more at ease when they control people, creating an “imaginary scorecard“, is a great tool for manipulating them.

10. They won’t leave you alone

While we all want our privacy, overbearing people will not respect it.

They are overbearing because they have a good reason. They love to consume your energy, because it’s all about you.

It doesn’t matter if you claim you want alone-time.

They don’t want to be alone so why should they?

11. They are obsessed with feedback

They don’t like receiving feedback on their work. When they feel they are being criticised, overbearing people can become defensive.

Even if you are objective, they will see your comment as negative feedback. They won’t accept it, no matter how sincere your intentions may be.

Leave a comment about how they can improve their performance. They’ll feel that you are judging them or hating them.

It would seem that anyone who enjoys progress would want to hear from others about how they can improve. This is far from the truth. Because people who are too bossy want their ideas to come from them.

If it is negative, they won’t be interested in hearing about your opinion about their work.

12. They become mad when things don’t go their way

People who are too bossy can inflict a certain amount on themselves.

If a waiter makes a mistake with their order, they will immediately quit. If someone refuses to be a partner, they will take it personally even if it isn’t a major deal.

They want everything to go according to plan. They will also blame someone else if things go wrong.

They will have a perfect view of their lives and be mad at anyone who makes things go wrong.

It is extremely toxic and draining.

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