Another big fight, another unneeded squabble and more insults in each direction and your relationship is over You both leave the argument feeling defeated.
You wonder “How did this happen?” You wonder “How did it happen?”
Is it over for you? It can be hard to know.
Sometimes you just know and sometimes you don’t.
Some people realize this immediately, while others remain in denial for months or even years trying to hold on to their dead relationship.
It doesn’t matter how closely your life is intertwined with your partner, it is not a good idea for you to force yourself into a relationship that is over.
It is not only unhealthy for both of you, but also a waste your time and heartache.
This article will discuss everything you need in order to make a decision about whether your relationship is ending and what you can do next.
We’ll first go over 16 signs that your relationship is ending. Then, we’ll discuss ways to save it (if you’re not too far gone).
14 Signs that your relationship is over
1) Foundations that are too shallow
Young couples who started their relationships in a firestorm of excitement and lust often find that the spark quickly fades once the novelty of each others’ bodies and company wears down.
You feel obligated to meet up even if you don’t have much in common.
Slowly, you start to resent one another until even sex, which was the best thing about the relationship, becomes dull.
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
When you eat together, there is nothing to talk about.
There are very few things you share in common.
After sex, you feel relieved.
2) Too much baggage
The opposite of the “shallow base” problem, having too many baggage is when a couple has had too many fights, arguments, and bitter break ups.
Although you may love one another, you may laugh at each others jokes and share many of the same interests. However, you have stepped on eachother’s toes far too many times.
It doesn’t matter how hard you try to forget about the past. The resentment is there no matter what. You can’t even spend an hour together without having to get into a fight.
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
Your family has a long history with fighting and breaking up
It feels like you are walking on eggshells between each other
You’re tired of hearing (and saying) sorry
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4) Personal modifications
People are constantly changing. We go to school, get jobs, learn new skills, and we strive to be better.
However, we all evolve at different rates and in different ways. Two people may have been perfect at times, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they will be forever.
It is not your fault. One person may feel they need to be in a different stage of their lives and feel they need it. They can’t help but feel their partner is keeping them back from reaching their full potential.
It is something we seldom admit to and it often manifests in unnecessary and petty fights.
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
Your partner or you have recently experienced a major life change.
Your partner or you have been discussing dreams and goals with your partner.
Your partner or you are content with the status quo, and believe the other person is too.
5) Circumstances and indifference
Not all personal changes have to be major, life-altering realizations. These changes may be subtle and gradual, which can have a significant impact on your relationships.
If one of the partners decides to work a little more every day, it can cause a significant loss in the relationship.
Slowly, the indifference starts to creep in and time that was once spent together becomes time spent apart. Without caring about the consequences for the relationship.
You never know what might happen next. In just a few months your entire intimate relationship and sex life could be over.
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
There is much disagreement about priorities and time.
It doesn’t feel like your partner understands the reasons you do what you do
It is difficult to feel attracted by your partner because of the arguments.
6) You have lost yourself in the relationship
Healthy relationships should encourage us to thrive and become the best version of ourselves. Partner should be there to lift us up and increase our confidence.
But, if you don’t recognise yourself, it is one of the most destructive ways to end a relationship.
It could be that your relationship has become so intense that it is consuming you, or that you have forgotten to look after yourself while putting your partner first. This can lead to feeling disconnected from your self.
It’s also a recipe for disaster if you are unhappy in your internal life, and you have a relationship that is failing.
7) Your relationship is no longer of value
Relationships can add value to your life, be it in the form or love, companionship, or anything else.
When a relationship stops adding value to our lives, it’s not worth it anymore.
We don’t always see it. No matter what, a part of us will always love the person we are with.
Men need a special kind of relationship value that only a few women understand.
The common wisdom is that exceptional women are the ones men love.
We love them as they are. Perhaps she is an enviable personality or a firecracker at bedtime.
This way of thinking is wrong, I know this as a man.
When it comes to men feeling satisfied in a relationship, none of these things really matter. It’s the attributes of the woman, not the man that matters.
It doesn’t matter what a man sees in her eyes, but how he feels about herself when he is around her.
This is the truth:
Men can only be happy with a partner if it makes them feel good about themselves.
This is because a romantic relationship fulfills a man’s desire for companionship in the same way that it matches his identity…the way he sees himself.
What does his relationship with you make him feel about himself. Does he feel fulfilled by his relationship?
The one thing that men desire more in a relationship than anything else is to be viewed as heroes. You are not an action hero like Thor. You are someone who can provide you with something that no one else can.
He wants to be there to protect you and be appreciated for all he does.
All of this has a biological foundation. James Bauer, a relationship expert, calls it the hero instinct.
You can watch James’ video for free here.
James Bauer demonstrates in this video how to activate his hero instinct by revealing the exact words you can use, what texts you can send and what requests you can make.
This instinct will allow you to add the value he seeks in a partner. You’ll unlock the version of yourself he has always wanted.
8) No more talk about the future
Both partners in a relationship should desire to grow and mature together. When it comes to your future, you should be on the same page.
It’s normal to start planning for the future if you are in a loving, secure and healthy relationship. Even if you may not always share your thoughts with your partner, it’s possible to spend the rest of your lives with them.
These daydreams may seem like distant memories when a relationship is ending. The thought of being together forever can make you panicky.
It’s no longer fun and exciting to talk about the things you would like to do in the future.
Although you may love your partner, the idea of having to make big life decisions together is not something that feels right.
It’s possible to believe that it’s worth keeping those shared dreams for the future. If you are unable to see them in the future, this could be a sign you have lost faith in them and their relationship.
If your relationship isn’t moving forward, you might want to consider whether it’s worth keeping.
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
Your partner or you stop talking and planning for the future.
It’s not a good idea to make long-term commitments like getting married or having children.
It’s easy to see a future that is different from the one you planned.
9) You feel more interested in people around you
Even if your partner is a loving person, it’s normal for you to find attractive people. This is not something we can control and should not be ashamed of.
A harmless flirt or innocent banter with someone you like is not a sign of a serious breakup.
These innocent, platonic flirtations should be turned into something more.
You might lose interest in your relationship if you begin fantasizing about other people.
Many people believe that cheating is a simple act of physical violence. However, investing your time and feelings in someone romantically could be a sign that your relationship isn’t working.
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
You would rather spend time with others than your partner
You want to express your feelings toward other people
Even while you are having sex with your partner, you may think of other people.
10.Unrealistic Love Expectations
If you or your partner have unrealistic expectations of what a loving relationship should be like, it is a sign that the relationship has ended.
Westerners are obsessed with romantic love. We see movies and TV shows about happy couples who live happily ever after.
Naturally, we want it for our own good.
Although romantic love sounds beautiful, it is unrealistic.
Experts believe that the idea has been around for only 250 years. People used to get together for practical reasons, usually to survive or have children.
I was shocked to discover that my romantic fantasies were also trapped after I watched a 10-minute video of Ruda Iande (a world-renowned shaman).
I was able to accept that the perfect relationship doesn’t exist and live my life as it is. This also allowed me to have meaningful relationships, even if they weren’t perfect.
Although I am not the typical person who would seek the guidance of a shaman, Ruda Iande, however, is not your average shaman.
He has spent much time with the Amazonian tribes. He sings and bangs his drums occasionally, as well as shamanic songs.
He is, however, different in a significant way. Ruda Iande made shamanism accessible to modern society. He has communicated and translated it for me and you.
People living regular lives.
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11) Every flaw is annoying
Flaws. There are flaws.
This doesn’t mean you should love them all. There will always be something you dislike about your partner.
If you find the flaws in your partner irritating, it is a sign that your relationship has ended.
It’s not cute when they forget the bathroom light is off or lose their car keys.
These small flaws are easy to overlook and ignore when you’re just starting a relationship.
These flaws can build up over time and make you feel less positive about your partner.
Perhaps you are having trouble remembering why you fell in love with them. Maybe the sound of their breathing makes it seem like they are screaming at you. It doesn’t mean that you should point out or criticize everything they do.
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
Arguments are made from small flaws
You are annoyed by little things that your partner does without any real reason
You lose sight of all the positive things about your partner who first attracted to you
12) If you feel something is not right, it’s your gut feeling.
A gut feeling, also known as intuition, is something that we feel inside that guides or warns us.
This ability is a good thing. Trust your gut feeling is still a strong principle today. It is easy to spend hours deliberating on a situation without ever coming up with a solution.
Trusting your gut can sometimes help you make the right decisions. Simply by paying attention to how your body reacts, you can often trust your intuition.
Emotions can be high in relationships. If things aren’t going well, you may feel confused or unsure what to do.
It is possible that you have spent nights deliberating about the possibilities and whether the relationship can be saved.
It’s okay to let go of all thoughts and listen to your gut instincts. Your body may be telling you to stop thinking about the relationship and take control of your emotions.
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
It’s been a long time since you felt bad but you continue to ignore it
Despite your best efforts, you don’t see any improvement in your relationship.
When you think about your relationship, you feel negative emotions
13) You have lost interest in the relationship
If you think of a great relationship, it is usually one that you enjoy spending time with and who you look forward to being with.
It’s not just about losing interest in your relationship. This can happen when either you or your partner are unable to put in the time and effort necessary to be a good friend.
You give in to arguments because you don’t have the energy to think about them. Your partner has lost interest in your opinions and daily life. You may not feel the need to speak to your partner anymore because you aren’t interested in what they have to share.
It doesn’t happen overnight. It is often due to resentment toward our partner that causes us to lose interest in the relationship.
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
Avoid having conversations with your partner, especially when they have to do with the relationship
They’re not exciting to see you anymore
It’s not worth your time to work on the relationship.
They are too busy to do every day things.
14) You are less and less in love with each other
The old saying is that absence makes the heart grow fonder. What does it mean to stop missing your partner after they leave?
While it’s normal to enjoy time apart, a happy relationship will likely cause you to start to miss your partner after just a few days.
Even if you are used to being apart you will feel at least happy when you are back together.
It might be a problem if you are happy and relieved when they’re gone, but you don’t want to wait for their return.
It is a good idea for you to stop and think about why you are actually together. What is keeping us from this relationship?
If you are having a difficult relationship, this could be the problem.
Seeing your partner after some time apart doesn’t excite you
It doesn’t matter how long your partner is gone
Your peace is made possible by their absence
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